What's in the way of transformation?

Transformation doesn't happen in the changing of the circumstances but in the transformation of the context in which being holds the circumstances.

I catch myself more often than I would like to admit being busy with what is going on in the world, what I do or what I believe what needs doing and try to "solve" life from there.

But what I miss in this approach is that whatever I am dealing with in life never is independent of the one who is looking at it. And from where I look completely transforms my experience of what I look at.

Lived transformation is born in my willingness to let go of my attachments.

Attachment to what?

Attachment to the meaning I ascribe to circumstances, ideas, people and events.

Have a look for yourself and see — what is keeping you from relating to your current situation as perfect, an opportunity and a gift?

What's keeping you from relating to people as lovable and beautiful, independent of what they do?

Only ever a thought you are attached to.

"I can't relate to the state of the world as perfect — that would mean I am ok with what's going on in the world!"

"if I let go of my view I will lose!"

"If I let go of my idea I will not be prepared to protect myself!"

Yet it doesn't mean that.

Yet we say things mean whatever they mean so that we don`t have to look. This and that is not ok the way it is, we say things should be different, we say our lives would be better if not for this thing, this situation. We say if we had a different body, a different age, a different amount of money in the bank we could be happy, satisfied and enjoy what we have.

We are so attached to these ideas that we become them. We suddenly are that we need money, we are that the world is not ok, we are that things should or shouldn't be a certain way.

And when we are challenged on these ideas we defend them.

And then we try to find solutions within the frame we have given life.

But life doesn't exist in this frame.

Life is way bigger than that frame.

And whenever you are willing to let go of the frame you are holding, life will reward you by showing you more of itself.

No amount of thinking, figuring it out and acting within the idea that life is not ok will satisfy us.

But when we can let go of our view, when we are willing to be taught by life itself, and when we see that we are in fact not our view, not our frame — we create a completely new possibility. A possibility to be with things as they are.

And that is inherently satisfying.

"Do everything with a mind that let's go. If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace. If you let go completely, you will know complete peace and freedom. Your struggles with the world will have come to an end." - Ajahn Chah

"The resistance to the unpleasant situation is the root of suffering." - Ram Dass

And we do not have to keep resisting, keep being attached.

We have a choice.

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